It is said that marriages are made in heaven (but then why do they break on earth?)
Any relationship based on wrong notions is bound to fall unless ur strong enough to keep it going ...People need reason to marry,not an emotion...Because it has been made as a tool, a platform to show themselves off as well as the partner ( Tht's why u get whole list of I WANT THIS N THAT in my partner, rather than complete acceptance of each other). To show what?Tht is upto an individual, someone says money,someone says looks,others say education,age-The thing that remains constant here is REASON..That showing off starts with the A la Grande celebration,in which apparently 90% of people aren't interested.They either come for good food or for showing them self off for a bait orrr for criticizing everything from groom/bride to food to clothes by saying they would ve done it better, lets say only 5% are genuinely happy to see that finally "ur settled".or in reality...are u? marriage has become a trend a must-do in life and one cannot afford to think out of the box on this 1 at least, else u ll b sidelined,mocked,pitied,called names which becomes apparently mental torturing, so one decided to go with the crowd.Common ask yourself why do u want to marry?
REASON 1. Yr family says
REASON 2. Your friends are already in that boat and you feel left out on the shore
REASON 3. You are running out on age..(jeezz thts a worst one) so u see- reason reason reason..I hear hardly anyone saying "I want to marry because I want to give love, to share my LIFE with someone, to get love from that person"..nahh ..so you see the base of a relationship is only wrong then how can u expect the building to be strong?.
God made pairs because they would complete the creation, become whole,yin n yang again, through each others differences they could learn, they could grow..but we got this whole thing wrong. Rather than becoming strong support ,we become a hang man for each other,searching reasons to strangle each other.Rather than learning,growing we take it as male dominance and feminist approach. (Yes, in many cases there is and I fully support the reason to leave a troubling life,but most of the times it is not what it looks) The man says I need a wife to give me offspring and take care of my house and the woman thinks I need a man for emotional support n financial too ;) ,there is really no room for love to bloom in such a condition where there is only need and not stability. In the first place you are not even mentally mature enough to get into a marriage specially before the age 25.Such a pity I see many of people who marry early and say to me "love,what love? its only found in stories and I'm sure Ill start loving the one I marry after we get married."Life passes by but u never "fall in love".coz its not something to fall into,its like bungee jumping,u can either follow yr intuition n do it now or never do it,there is no putting off for some future date.I personally feel pity on such idiots. Well the matter of the fact is U will only think that it is love because u don't have any other option,imagine such people telling, I don't love him/her but I'm married,n having kids with d same,how obnoxious it would sound,so its just a cover up..
Marriage is a great institution if done with the right approach, at the right time with the right person. And the only right reason for anything is always LOVE , love firstly for yourself (so that u can give it to the other person)to be the honest,committed and broadminded individual and secondly for the partner whom u chose solely on acceptance and love of course.After love the most important aspect is trust and then respect and communication. They are like a golden chain that binds two people in a relationship of marriage. If u are aware enough ull see that all of them cannot exist without the other , u can never love whom u cant respect,u can never trust whom u dont communicate openly with,and and whom u cant trust u will never love. Sure, there can come a lot of hurdles in the path but its all about over coming them and remembering that its a bend n not the end.IF one has to marry on a condition ,might as well put it as "someone who respects me,loves me,trusts me" n not "tall ,dark, handsome,rich"/ "pretty,slim,working"...blah blah..
It is sad to see people talking bad about their spouses in front of colleague,friends etc etc.Ur his/her better half, u should stand like a pillar of strength covering their follies for but no , u publicly humiliate the same person .Making marriage as a joke and smsing the thread to all the friends requesting them not to marry..crying that u were happy when single. lol.. thats exactly what happens when u refuse to let go of yr ego and accept each other.Such people in the first place shouldnt marry and make themselves as well as partners and their future generations unhappy.
This is the real face of marriage in this day and age.Think about it, is it worth it? If u wanted to be miserable and cranky about it then might as well be single and be cranky rather than going through this entire process of insulting n whining over something that u yrself chose at one point..The choice is still left on individual to copy the above mentioned behaviour , or stand away and be a role model for many to come. or yeaaaa one can always remain single n njoy the show ;) As they say "its better to be single then marrying for wrong reason".
Any relationship based on wrong notions is bound to fall unless ur strong enough to keep it going ...People need reason to marry,not an emotion...Because it has been made as a tool, a platform to show themselves off as well as the partner ( Tht's why u get whole list of I WANT THIS N THAT in my partner, rather than complete acceptance of each other). To show what?Tht is upto an individual, someone says money,someone says looks,others say education,age-The thing that remains constant here is REASON..That showing off starts with the A la Grande celebration,in which apparently 90% of people aren't interested.They either come for good food or for showing them self off for a bait orrr for criticizing everything from groom/bride to food to clothes by saying they would ve done it better, lets say only 5% are genuinely happy to see that finally "ur settled".or in reality...are u? marriage has become a trend a must-do in life and one cannot afford to think out of the box on this 1 at least, else u ll b sidelined,mocked,pitied,called names which becomes apparently mental torturing, so one decided to go with the crowd.Common ask yourself why do u want to marry?
REASON 1. Yr family says
REASON 2. Your friends are already in that boat and you feel left out on the shore
REASON 3. You are running out on age..(jeezz thts a worst one) so u see- reason reason reason..I hear hardly anyone saying "I want to marry because I want to give love, to share my LIFE with someone, to get love from that person"..nahh ..so you see the base of a relationship is only wrong then how can u expect the building to be strong?.
God made pairs because they would complete the creation, become whole,yin n yang again, through each others differences they could learn, they could grow..but we got this whole thing wrong. Rather than becoming strong support ,we become a hang man for each other,searching reasons to strangle each other.Rather than learning,growing we take it as male dominance and feminist approach. (Yes, in many cases there is and I fully support the reason to leave a troubling life,but most of the times it is not what it looks) The man says I need a wife to give me offspring and take care of my house and the woman thinks I need a man for emotional support n financial too ;) ,there is really no room for love to bloom in such a condition where there is only need and not stability. In the first place you are not even mentally mature enough to get into a marriage specially before the age 25.Such a pity I see many of people who marry early and say to me "love,what love? its only found in stories and I'm sure Ill start loving the one I marry after we get married."Life passes by but u never "fall in love".coz its not something to fall into,its like bungee jumping,u can either follow yr intuition n do it now or never do it,there is no putting off for some future date.I personally feel pity on such idiots. Well the matter of the fact is U will only think that it is love because u don't have any other option,imagine such people telling, I don't love him/her but I'm married,n having kids with d same,how obnoxious it would sound,so its just a cover up..
Marriage is a great institution if done with the right approach, at the right time with the right person. And the only right reason for anything is always LOVE , love firstly for yourself (so that u can give it to the other person)to be the honest,committed and broadminded individual and secondly for the partner whom u chose solely on acceptance and love of course.After love the most important aspect is trust and then respect and communication. They are like a golden chain that binds two people in a relationship of marriage. If u are aware enough ull see that all of them cannot exist without the other , u can never love whom u cant respect,u can never trust whom u dont communicate openly with,and and whom u cant trust u will never love. Sure, there can come a lot of hurdles in the path but its all about over coming them and remembering that its a bend n not the end.IF one has to marry on a condition ,might as well put it as "someone who respects me,loves me,trusts me" n not "tall ,dark, handsome,rich"/ "pretty,slim,working"...blah blah..
It is sad to see people talking bad about their spouses in front of colleague,friends etc etc.Ur his/her better half, u should stand like a pillar of strength covering their follies for but no , u publicly humiliate the same person .Making marriage as a joke and smsing the thread to all the friends requesting them not to marry..crying that u were happy when single. lol.. thats exactly what happens when u refuse to let go of yr ego and accept each other.Such people in the first place shouldnt marry and make themselves as well as partners and their future generations unhappy.
This is the real face of marriage in this day and age.Think about it, is it worth it? If u wanted to be miserable and cranky about it then might as well be single and be cranky rather than going through this entire process of insulting n whining over something that u yrself chose at one point..The choice is still left on individual to copy the above mentioned behaviour , or stand away and be a role model for many to come. or yeaaaa one can always remain single n njoy the show ;) As they say "its better to be single then marrying for wrong reason".
