There comes a time in every one's life where you really have to choose between yourself and someone else, some close to you, someone whom you really love. You are forced to choose between your happiness and that person's. What would you do in such a time? Our society teaches to be "sacrificing" to keep others happy and let go of your happiness.. But truly I believe the exact opposite. I feel how can you make others happy when you yourself are disconsolate ? Even if you can (taken for granted that you can) bring happiness to someone else , are you really being true to yourself? Don't you deserve to be happy? Aren't you as human as the one you love? Than why this discrimination?wouldn't you for a fraction of a second also feel "oh I wish things would have gone in my favour" ? I bet you would. Then isn't it better option to make yourself happy before you make others? Isn't it said by the wise that your outer world is reflection of your inner?So if one makes her/his Inner world ie THE SELF, joyous the same person's surrounding will also show the same. If you are content within, your vibrations will be so high that others also will feel joyous , content when you are around or might also take you as a mentor , as someone who brights up their days.
There are hell of myths created by the society, sacrificing, being selfless etc are to name a few. just to distinguish between desreving and non deserving. Enlightened are the people who knows no discrimination. Here mind you , I'm not saying that you should be negatively selfish. There is fine , very fine line between loving yourself and being cruel to others to suit yourself. The CREATOR has made us that way that we are always helpful to others around us. Try imagine life where no one has to help anyone else, would there be love? would there be life? it would be like a dead men walking, zombies. No, we are not created to be this, we are created to help each other, sometimes emotionally, physically , mentally or by just being there (just the presence). So coming back, being negatively selfish is taking away someone Else's rights (could be any rights,not just judicial) to make yourself happy for eg. plotting against an employee so that you may get next promotion.It is possible that the candidate would be more deserving than you. Having healthy self respect , loving yourself first and thus loving others is what Im talking about here.It is wonderous if you can give other people the smile they lost in the battle of life.BUT NOT at the cost of your own. ( I may sound someone promoting selfish word here, it isnt so.Its an observation coming from experience.)There isnt any need to boost someone elses ego at the cost of your self respect. By all means BE THERE FOR YOURSELF.Make yourself chipper and see the whole world chirping with you ;).
"NEVER COMPROMISE ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE ALL YOU HAVE GOT".Yes, it hurts, yes it feels "oh I'm being so nasty with someone I love"(you are not, you are saving someone from the trouble she/he would go through by seeing you in sadness).Things will be ugly in the beginning but time is the key word here.. It heals the deepest wounds, only if you allow it to.
"Pick yourself before you pick someone else" is the ingredient for happy life. But remember THE FINE LINE ;)
Love n Light..
