I want..........

I dont want to be just another soul that comes and goes

I dont want to be just another spark that returns back to Light

I want to be that soul ,that spark which ignites the flames;

of Love, of joy, of life.

The roads are long and the journey may be difficile 

but the faith is strong and the hope goes long.

I want to lose MYSELF to be ME,

I want to love to be free. 

We are human, social beings. We are surrounded by people throughout our lives,some are friends, some go beyond that and some….. leaves or should be thrown out. Friendship or any relationship that toxifies your life. Needs to go. Harsh it sounds but one would rather have few genuine friends then having million fake friends or “frenemies” the term Sounds familiar eh? Yes we all have such creatures in our life once a while. This word is the collaboration of the word, friend and enemy.

Frenemies are generally the “friends” who come in your life with a very sweet talk and by showing the best in them for their own selfish motto.  We accept them for what they show us,not realizing the dagger they carry behind their back.Not judging our self; we could be too naive or may be completely unaware of their intentions. 

So what do we do? How do we know that we have Frenemies? 

I can say its better to be very cautious with all the relationship in life. Be very alert.Test people,Its completely fair to do so. People who are toxic will show the hint in some form or the other you just have to aware and alert enough to recognize them.As and when you do, dont procrastinate but take the action there and than.Still for instance frenemies will always comes to u when they are in need, it could be financial,emotional,physical anything they dont really bother what is in your life but will jabber about theirs as if u have all the free time in the world to listen to their nonsense.Emotionally they will exploit you by pointing out your faults and calling it “your benefit”. Your emotions are weakness and exaggeration for them thus they will completely disregard them. Truth said,no body  is perfect and friendship out of all the relationship should be based on sole acceptance of each other.You begin to lose strength and positivity of your own and start becoming like them. They tend to prosper after you coming in their life where as your life goes down the drain. Nothing in your life goes right till they are there, and you sit back and watch their life soaring .This happens because they are sucking life,prana out of you which in tern becomes their prosperity,leaving you soul less.. We all make mistakes, thats what keeps us beautifully human but when our faults are magnified, and shown to other friends with the intent of disrupting friendship between two friends is the wonderful and clever work of frienemies. A genuine friend will never quote anyone and wont click your personal conversation and show it to the world with the intent of ruining your friendship.Yes and those who believe such people, are also weak human themselves.The real friends rather call you up and talk it out and clear the issue,for them you are more valuable than the rumors spread about you.

They say, friends are the relatives you choose. Are frenemies worth this? I dont think so. In the end who loses? The one with sincere heart. Why get into this then? Why make your loss, their gain? Such people, without a second thought should be UNFRIENDed from LIFE, forget social networking. There is really no point in dragging such friendship that is based on lies, deceit,humiliation. One should love themselves enough to set the boundaries and not let such people cross it.If they do ,do yourself that much of favor to kick them out.Friendship if was long and old will hurt like hell, it will , you may go through anger, hurt, sadness every emotion on earth.Though toxic , you will miss the birthdays, the meetings, the fun, drives in the rain everything. It is completely fine to go through all this, this too will teach you a lot. They just make the whole drama for you so real that you will just get entangled in those memories,till you break free and realize that never sacrifice long term happiness for short term gain.Once you begin to heal you shall see the fictitious nature of such friendship. At a point its better to not have friends then having bunch of these. They really do no good to you.

On the brighter side, we all are blessed with at least one friend who is a real sweetheart. Who actually stand by you, treat you fair and love you for being YOU. Be grateful. They are the ones who have scored A+ in the tests of fire. Such are the ones who should be worth calling a friend in the first place. Focus on them. You will attract positive things and more positive friends once you let go of the wrong ones but dont forget to Thank the darkness because they are the ones that give you the value of the Light. 

Spirituality- et all

Knowing Half truth is more dangerous than knowing the full, they say. These days, this truth is said, known and twisted to the maximum. To call oneself spiritual has become a symbol tht says "Im different", most of them not even being aware of what the word spirituality means. One wants to be different, so call oneself without the depth of the subject.

To know what u are, first you have to know what ur not. Same goes with this word. Spirituality is not an absence of religious belief and worship, its about oneness , the ultimate truth.Spirituality is  not what u Say. Its all about what you ARE.We are the soul having human experience and not other way round. Its about living with the LIGHT, acting in a righteous manner,being AWARE- of your actions,words,intention. 

A spiritual being is NOT some avataar from some far away galaxy, they are not perfect themselves, they are also HUMAN- that level of perfection can only be expected from God. We still go through the same ups and downs that everyone else does, we are same flesh and blood as any other being. I often get comments from the people as "oh how can u do this?how can u get angry?how can u feel depressed? you are spiritual being" Yea as if we are demi Gods incarnated itself (unless we are and we arent aware of it.lol) Stop putting YOUR boundries and pressure on us in the name of spirituality. We never claim to be different. Through out the history and mythology, every God that incarnated had only one message,they ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN REST OF US. Kingdom of GOD resides in all of us the same. ITs only matter that they realise it, believe it and LIVE IT. and others look for someone else to give their power to rather than believing their inner light.

Spirituality is not even doing thousand courses and spending huge amount on them. It is just filling peoples pocket and getting a certificate that says you are this and this.When it is just the matter of realization that you are everything that u seek. Of course energy exchange has to be there but not that much that the learner in the end is struggling to pass his rest of the months. and for the love of God, spirituality is not dealing with demons and conspiracing against the earth. Its not also to visit every temple and sit high up on the peak of the mountain waiting for some divine being to give u your wish (brrrrr, it could be damn cold out there, unless ur up for such an adventure)Anyways Deities have better and important work to do then granting people their wishes which may involve destruction on Earth ;p

Every fiber of every universe is as equally spiritual as rest of us who knows we are.God has not made anyone less or more. What people have become is through their own hard work and effort to be like God or be far away from him. His love is so pure that his children who chose the other path is also not judged,condemned or isolated. They are given the same help , love and acceptance as any of us to change, to be better, to be like him. If wasnt for his love the universe would collapse into a small dot.-----------

Its only matter of realization

Coming back to the word- Spirituality is so simple that few words are enough to define it (and few paragraph to define what its not).

• Unconditional love towards everyone and everything.
• Surrender and trust to the divine and his plan.He takes care of the tiniest detail of your life( what was your contribution of becoming whole being from a tiny cell,NOTHING,its HIM who intervened)
• Manifesting humility (ego gets u practically no where)
• Meditating -which is our way "to keep in touch" with God and Divine beings and our only tool to survive in this insanity.
• Oneness - we believe that everything and every being has the same God energy which includes a single sand on the beach too.Whatever we do has the ripple effect throughout the universe.

What do people need to do in order to be spiritual?was once asked, its simple, LIVE the above qualities and know that UR ONE with the LIGHT of GOD,nothing else is to be done. I hope this must have cleared some cloud hovering. Thus, do not judge, live n let live with happiness,peace and LIGHT. 

A year

A year passed by, in blink of an eye.
A year like eternity,
an eon wrapped in  a year,
since you left, without a word; to the soul
It wandered and fell and 't last,awakened, to the fact,
the labels o'good and bad were just knockers,
But love never budged.

Time went by without a word,
that not matters,now,as silence is love,
Still awaiting,your return

Marriage....Why?????????

It is said that marriages are made in heaven (but then why do they break on earth?)

Any relationship based on wrong notions is bound to fall unless ur strong enough to keep it going ...People need reason to marry,not an emotion...Because it has been made as a tool, a platform to show themselves off as well as the partner ( Tht's why u get whole list of I WANT THIS N THAT in my partner, rather than complete acceptance of each other). To show what?Tht is upto an individual, someone says money,someone says looks,others say education,age-The thing that remains constant here is REASON..That showing off starts with the A la Grande celebration,in which apparently 90% of people aren't interested.They either come for good food or for showing them self off for a bait orrr for criticizing everything from groom/bride to food to clothes by saying they would ve done it better, lets say only 5% are genuinely happy to see that finally "ur settled".or in reality...are u?  marriage has become a trend a must-do in life and one cannot afford to think out of the box on this 1 at least, else u ll b sidelined,mocked,pitied,called names which becomes apparently mental torturing, so one decided to go with the crowd.Common ask yourself why do u want to marry?
REASON 1. Yr family says
REASON 2. Your friends are already in that boat and you feel left out on the shore
REASON 3. You are running out on age..(jeezz thts a worst one) so u see- reason reason reason..I hear hardly anyone saying "I want to marry because I want to give love, to share my LIFE with someone, to get love from that person"..nahh ..so you see the base of a relationship is only wrong then how can u expect the building to be strong?.
God made pairs because they would complete the creation, become whole,yin n yang again, through each others differences they could learn, they could grow..but we got this whole thing wrong. Rather than becoming strong support ,we become a hang man for each other,searching reasons to strangle each other.Rather than learning,growing we take it as male dominance  and feminist approach. (Yes, in many cases there is and I fully support the reason to leave a troubling life,but most of the times it is not what it looks) The man says I need a wife to give me offspring and take care of my house and the woman thinks I need a man for emotional support n financial too ;) ,there is really no room for love to bloom in such a condition where there is only need and not stability. In the first place you are not even mentally mature enough to get into a marriage specially before the age 25.Such a pity I see many of people who marry early and say to me "love,what love? its only found in stories and  I'm sure Ill start loving the one I marry after we get married."Life passes by but u never "fall in love".coz its not something to fall into,its like bungee jumping,u can either follow yr intuition n do it now or never do it,there is no putting off for some future date.I personally feel pity on such idiots. Well the matter of the fact is U will only think that it is love because u don't have any other option,imagine such people telling, I don't love him/her but I'm married,n having kids with d same,how obnoxious it would sound,so its just a cover up..

Marriage is a great institution if done with the right approach, at the right time with the right person. And the only right reason for anything is always LOVE , love firstly for yourself (so that u can give it to the other person)to be the honest,committed and broadminded individual and secondly for the partner whom u chose solely on acceptance and love of course.After love the most important aspect is trust and then respect and communication. They are like a golden chain that binds two people in a relationship of marriage. If u are aware enough ull see that all of them cannot exist without the other , u can never love whom u cant respect,u can never trust whom u dont communicate openly with,and  and whom u cant trust u will never love. Sure, there can come a lot of hurdles in the path but its all about over coming them and remembering that its a bend n not the end.IF one has to marry on a condition ,might as well put it as "someone who respects me,loves me,trusts me" n not "tall ,dark, handsome,rich"/ "pretty,slim,working"...blah blah..

It is sad to see people talking bad about their spouses in front of colleague,friends etc etc.Ur his/her better half, u should stand like a pillar of strength covering their follies for  but no , u publicly humiliate the same person .Making marriage as a joke and smsing the thread to all the friends requesting them not to marry..crying that u were happy when single. lol.. thats exactly what happens when u refuse to let go of yr ego and accept each other.Such people in the first place shouldnt marry and make themselves as well as partners and their future generations unhappy.

This is the real face of marriage in this day and age.Think about it, is it worth it? If u wanted to be miserable and cranky about it then might as well be single and be cranky rather than going through this entire process of insulting n whining over something that u yrself chose at one point..The choice is still left on individual to copy the above mentioned behaviour , or stand away and be a role model for many to come. or yeaaaa one can always remain single n njoy the show ;) As they say "its better to be single then marrying for wrong reason".

A simple story

This happens in every child's life.. Yours and mine too..  

There was a small child who saw a beautiful big balloon on the other side of the road and fell in love with it on a traffic clad busy day..The cars were rushing speedily towards their destination. The cars wouldnt stop for anyone . The child starts demanding the balloon to the mother n father.. and wants to get it himself. The parent refused explaining the situation to the child saying that he would get hurt in the process of getting wht he wants  but assures tht they will get a better n bigger balloon for him. The child doesnt listen and is hell bent on getting tht balloon. So forcefully the parent hits the child, still with tears in his eyes the kid still longs for the same. Parents are fed up , its not even possible for them to leave the child and get what he wants .. they stood there wondering what to do.. n suddenly , the child leaves the hand of the mother and  run towards the balloon. The parents witnesses the most horrid scene which they would never forget for the rest of the existence , their child  got killed in the process of  getting something very silly.. The mother still cries  asking to the empty space thinking tht thier son may hear her "why didnt you listen to us? we wanted to protect you?"    but its too late now...

This is what exactly happens when we do not get what we want.. The child is us asking for something silly, God as parents knows the larger picture,knows wht is good n bad for us, tries ITS level best to make us understand in any language possible that THIS IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU, sometimes we listen, sometimes we dont.. Pain,heartbreak, and many other incidences are Gods way of telling us " WE WILL GIVE U A BETTER n BIGGER THINGS, leave this one, its not good for u.. Ull harm yourself" but do we trust God? no. and yes all depends on how a good of a kid we are. ;) and ultimately when we are hurt , it hurts GOD much more then you, you are ITS child for Christ's sake!!! God  says the same words that the mother used  " why didnt you listen to us? we wanted to protect you?" and sometimes we are too dead to even hear that... 

If we listen we may miss out on a big balloon but will surely get BIGGER N BETTER balloon.. :D It only takes this much of a faith for God to give u better things in life.. We reading this feels Oh such a stupid kid.. lost hiss life after stupid thing,, we arent any different , we also lose ourself for many things which arent for our ultimate good. If we are alert enough to listen to the CREATOR we would be saving our selves from much bigger trouble.. The journey is not of  "FINDING GOD" because you are never away from God as God is everything and everywhere.. The journey is of TRUST  in that God ;which we have lost in the consecutive births and probably that lack of trust has only made us come back many times to learn the same lesson..

So just buckle up your trust and enjoy the journey of your life 

God bless

Relationships- Now complex

"Too much of logic and too little of  love has doomed this planet"
Just a while ago I had lived in the world of either black or white specially with ref to relationships but now I discover that there is grey also  ,not just grey, but different shades of it.

Relationship (as in love) was focused on love,it was simple arithmetic, you either love someone or you dont. But now its diversified view has made the relationship between two people so complex that they end up liking someone they love n loving someone they actually like or worst of the case ,lose faith in any relationship altogether. People now want to "SEE" how it goes.. ,they want to calculate where the opposite person stands in their scale of priorities of looks,education, status, money blah blah..for christ sake! wht all this have to do with love anyways? Isnt love suppose to be a feeling and not a scale? After all this analysis is there any room for feelings?I think not,it becomes a corporate deal where you either compromise or you lose,you never win because no one on this planet earth is going to be 100% according to what you want,for hell sake you yourself  change your priorities(n yrself) like zillion times with age,time,social conditions etc etc and thn you end up rejecting everyone or settling for someone whom you can show off to the world and boost your ego.What a waste of life.!!!

Ahhh... DATING.. this word somehow has gone right above my head without even being close for me to understand the hang of it..I mean wht?... is tht crap? After a lot of inquiry and polls I ve concluded that DATING is a word which means - " My heart likes you but my brain must approve of you which will be decided by the way you dress, your manners,n money,how hot ur ,n what my friends think of you, I dont have guts to get into a relationship so let me at least go out with u so that I can sooth my feelings n thus you stand chance of a relationship if all the criteria are met else......out you go... n I dont care how U feel about it...n I dnt have to give you any explanation for my coward behavior" .
    I dont mean that get into a relationship without knowing, you can be friends first..know each other n thn decide, why keep both of yourself hanging on the rope of "DATE"? The reason for this is people are very scared of "going wrong" when it comes to their life with others, they want to be perfect even if it means to neglect your feelings for the opposite person no matter how true they are,you want to do the "RIGHT THING"(whtever that means). The fear of being wrong has seeped in so badly in people's minds that they would rather die or kill someone than be said as WRONG. Yes they do kill, their own feelings, their own heart for the sake of something which itself isnt permanent. The conditions at which people approve one another itself is so fragile that it will fade away within no time--looks,money,status will never last forever.The only thing which you always neglected will be with u till the end- YOUR HEART/your feelings !!! n sadly by the time you realise it,you are either dead or close to it..

  In old times feelings were more important n that was the reason the relationship never broke,they also had their share of fights n misunderstandings still they believed in LOVE for each other... people use to listen to their inner voice not judge( like recent times)  based on fruitless things. For Gods sake look at married couples now, 6 months-1 year n divorce.NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES HAVE THEY DATED. (psst.. coz when you are dating you are wearing a mask  not being yr true self  coz u gotta  please the opp person,ROFL).When the foundation itself is weak of a relationship,the building is going to fall one day,and it does.. rather then trust and love u put conditions,where you should hold hands,you leave it  thats why there is extra marital affairs,u again fall for same qualities that once attracted you in your current partner in someone else n there you go..n you will continue this behavior till you get frustrated when noone matches your list any more.This wont happen if your love is based on complete acceptance of each other,faith in each other,the passion to walk life together but no, Girls think I can earn +got (artificial) great looks I can get anyone. Guys think Im THE MAN earning more thn women I can get anyone , who cares for this one? ..and their life goes in this attitude and THE ONE never comes..Be "the ONE" first to attract "the ONE".. What are you giving it to the opposite person that you are asking for something in return? ask yourself this and thn think about a relationship or even before passing a judgement on anyone.It is indeed very wise to know your feelings before committing, dont get me wrong I do not propagate blind commitment. What I speak of it letting go of the fear to be in one.There is nothing to be afraid of. Hurt? Yes,everyone is going to hurt us. Dont we have our differences with our own parents,siblings,friends? We do not run away or isolate ourselves in a corner.we go ahead and sort it out.The same thing could be applied to this beautiful relationship also. Blocking yourself and making excuses to not commit isnt a way to solve anything.In the end either one will be lonely which they will realise at the age of say 70 or will be forced to get into some form of relationship by the society. Either the case,its Commitment phobic's loss.

Set your heart free, dont cage it with conditions,Be a believer of love,of goodness of BELIEF itself.Everyone had/has gone though bad experiences when it comes to relationship or even life,its a learning experience.One faces challenges even in life,so do we give up on life?no then why on love?just because u can choose to not be in?Its human basic nature to want love and feelings and by blocking the feelings we somewhere block our very own nature which in tern makes us no better to a stone.Dont be control freak and try to control everything and everyone.There is so much of "I" in a relationship where it should be "WE" , put less of  "I" and see things from "US" point of view,trust me you will have the most satisfying relationship ever.  Because this is what love is all about-- WE

Love n Light......n @ last NEVER EVER GIVE UP ON LOVE (no matter wht n how many times u have faced failure... God bless you with UNCONDITIONAL LOVE)