A year

A year passed by, in blink of an eye.
A year like eternity,
an eon wrapped in  a year,
since you left, without a word; to the soul
It wandered and fell and 't last,awakened, to the fact,
the labels o'good and bad were just knockers,
But love never budged.

Time went by without a word,
that not matters,now,as silence is love,
Still awaiting,your return

Marriage....Why?????????

It is said that marriages are made in heaven (but then why do they break on earth?)

Any relationship based on wrong notions is bound to fall unless ur strong enough to keep it going ...People need reason to marry,not an emotion...Because it has been made as a tool, a platform to show themselves off as well as the partner ( Tht's why u get whole list of I WANT THIS N THAT in my partner, rather than complete acceptance of each other). To show what?Tht is upto an individual, someone says money,someone says looks,others say education,age-The thing that remains constant here is REASON..That showing off starts with the A la Grande celebration,in which apparently 90% of people aren't interested.They either come for good food or for showing them self off for a bait orrr for criticizing everything from groom/bride to food to clothes by saying they would ve done it better, lets say only 5% are genuinely happy to see that finally "ur settled".or in reality...are u?  marriage has become a trend a must-do in life and one cannot afford to think out of the box on this 1 at least, else u ll b sidelined,mocked,pitied,called names which becomes apparently mental torturing, so one decided to go with the crowd.Common ask yourself why do u want to marry?
REASON 1. Yr family says
REASON 2. Your friends are already in that boat and you feel left out on the shore
REASON 3. You are running out on age..(jeezz thts a worst one) so u see- reason reason reason..I hear hardly anyone saying "I want to marry because I want to give love, to share my LIFE with someone, to get love from that person"..nahh ..so you see the base of a relationship is only wrong then how can u expect the building to be strong?.
God made pairs because they would complete the creation, become whole,yin n yang again, through each others differences they could learn, they could grow..but we got this whole thing wrong. Rather than becoming strong support ,we become a hang man for each other,searching reasons to strangle each other.Rather than learning,growing we take it as male dominance  and feminist approach. (Yes, in many cases there is and I fully support the reason to leave a troubling life,but most of the times it is not what it looks) The man says I need a wife to give me offspring and take care of my house and the woman thinks I need a man for emotional support n financial too ;) ,there is really no room for love to bloom in such a condition where there is only need and not stability. In the first place you are not even mentally mature enough to get into a marriage specially before the age 25.Such a pity I see many of people who marry early and say to me "love,what love? its only found in stories and  I'm sure Ill start loving the one I marry after we get married."Life passes by but u never "fall in love".coz its not something to fall into,its like bungee jumping,u can either follow yr intuition n do it now or never do it,there is no putting off for some future date.I personally feel pity on such idiots. Well the matter of the fact is U will only think that it is love because u don't have any other option,imagine such people telling, I don't love him/her but I'm married,n having kids with d same,how obnoxious it would sound,so its just a cover up..

Marriage is a great institution if done with the right approach, at the right time with the right person. And the only right reason for anything is always LOVE , love firstly for yourself (so that u can give it to the other person)to be the honest,committed and broadminded individual and secondly for the partner whom u chose solely on acceptance and love of course.After love the most important aspect is trust and then respect and communication. They are like a golden chain that binds two people in a relationship of marriage. If u are aware enough ull see that all of them cannot exist without the other , u can never love whom u cant respect,u can never trust whom u dont communicate openly with,and  and whom u cant trust u will never love. Sure, there can come a lot of hurdles in the path but its all about over coming them and remembering that its a bend n not the end.IF one has to marry on a condition ,might as well put it as "someone who respects me,loves me,trusts me" n not "tall ,dark, handsome,rich"/ "pretty,slim,working"...blah blah..

It is sad to see people talking bad about their spouses in front of colleague,friends etc etc.Ur his/her better half, u should stand like a pillar of strength covering their follies for  but no , u publicly humiliate the same person .Making marriage as a joke and smsing the thread to all the friends requesting them not to marry..crying that u were happy when single. lol.. thats exactly what happens when u refuse to let go of yr ego and accept each other.Such people in the first place shouldnt marry and make themselves as well as partners and their future generations unhappy.

This is the real face of marriage in this day and age.Think about it, is it worth it? If u wanted to be miserable and cranky about it then might as well be single and be cranky rather than going through this entire process of insulting n whining over something that u yrself chose at one point..The choice is still left on individual to copy the above mentioned behaviour , or stand away and be a role model for many to come. or yeaaaa one can always remain single n njoy the show ;) As they say "its better to be single then marrying for wrong reason".

A simple story

This happens in every child's life.. Yours and mine too..  

There was a small child who saw a beautiful big balloon on the other side of the road and fell in love with it on a traffic clad busy day..The cars were rushing speedily towards their destination. The cars wouldnt stop for anyone . The child starts demanding the balloon to the mother n father.. and wants to get it himself. The parent refused explaining the situation to the child saying that he would get hurt in the process of getting wht he wants  but assures tht they will get a better n bigger balloon for him. The child doesnt listen and is hell bent on getting tht balloon. So forcefully the parent hits the child, still with tears in his eyes the kid still longs for the same. Parents are fed up , its not even possible for them to leave the child and get what he wants .. they stood there wondering what to do.. n suddenly , the child leaves the hand of the mother and  run towards the balloon. The parents witnesses the most horrid scene which they would never forget for the rest of the existence , their child  got killed in the process of  getting something very silly.. The mother still cries  asking to the empty space thinking tht thier son may hear her "why didnt you listen to us? we wanted to protect you?"    but its too late now...

This is what exactly happens when we do not get what we want.. The child is us asking for something silly, God as parents knows the larger picture,knows wht is good n bad for us, tries ITS level best to make us understand in any language possible that THIS IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU, sometimes we listen, sometimes we dont.. Pain,heartbreak, and many other incidences are Gods way of telling us " WE WILL GIVE U A BETTER n BIGGER THINGS, leave this one, its not good for u.. Ull harm yourself" but do we trust God? no. and yes all depends on how a good of a kid we are. ;) and ultimately when we are hurt , it hurts GOD much more then you, you are ITS child for Christ's sake!!! God  says the same words that the mother used  " why didnt you listen to us? we wanted to protect you?" and sometimes we are too dead to even hear that... 

If we listen we may miss out on a big balloon but will surely get BIGGER N BETTER balloon.. :D It only takes this much of a faith for God to give u better things in life.. We reading this feels Oh such a stupid kid.. lost hiss life after stupid thing,, we arent any different , we also lose ourself for many things which arent for our ultimate good. If we are alert enough to listen to the CREATOR we would be saving our selves from much bigger trouble.. The journey is not of  "FINDING GOD" because you are never away from God as God is everything and everywhere.. The journey is of TRUST  in that God ;which we have lost in the consecutive births and probably that lack of trust has only made us come back many times to learn the same lesson..

So just buckle up your trust and enjoy the journey of your life 

God bless

Relationships- Now complex

"Too much of logic and too little of  love has doomed this planet"
Just a while ago I had lived in the world of either black or white specially with ref to relationships but now I discover that there is grey also  ,not just grey, but different shades of it.

Relationship (as in love) was focused on love,it was simple arithmetic, you either love someone or you dont. But now its diversified view has made the relationship between two people so complex that they end up liking someone they love n loving someone they actually like or worst of the case ,lose faith in any relationship altogether. People now want to "SEE" how it goes.. ,they want to calculate where the opposite person stands in their scale of priorities of looks,education, status, money blah blah..for christ sake! wht all this have to do with love anyways? Isnt love suppose to be a feeling and not a scale? After all this analysis is there any room for feelings?I think not,it becomes a corporate deal where you either compromise or you lose,you never win because no one on this planet earth is going to be 100% according to what you want,for hell sake you yourself  change your priorities(n yrself) like zillion times with age,time,social conditions etc etc and thn you end up rejecting everyone or settling for someone whom you can show off to the world and boost your ego.What a waste of life.!!!

Ahhh... DATING.. this word somehow has gone right above my head without even being close for me to understand the hang of it..I mean wht?... is tht crap? After a lot of inquiry and polls I ve concluded that DATING is a word which means - " My heart likes you but my brain must approve of you which will be decided by the way you dress, your manners,n money,how hot ur ,n what my friends think of you, I dont have guts to get into a relationship so let me at least go out with u so that I can sooth my feelings n thus you stand chance of a relationship if all the criteria are met else......out you go... n I dont care how U feel about it...n I dnt have to give you any explanation for my coward behavior" .
    I dont mean that get into a relationship without knowing, you can be friends first..know each other n thn decide, why keep both of yourself hanging on the rope of "DATE"? The reason for this is people are very scared of "going wrong" when it comes to their life with others, they want to be perfect even if it means to neglect your feelings for the opposite person no matter how true they are,you want to do the "RIGHT THING"(whtever that means). The fear of being wrong has seeped in so badly in people's minds that they would rather die or kill someone than be said as WRONG. Yes they do kill, their own feelings, their own heart for the sake of something which itself isnt permanent. The conditions at which people approve one another itself is so fragile that it will fade away within no time--looks,money,status will never last forever.The only thing which you always neglected will be with u till the end- YOUR HEART/your feelings !!! n sadly by the time you realise it,you are either dead or close to it..

  In old times feelings were more important n that was the reason the relationship never broke,they also had their share of fights n misunderstandings still they believed in LOVE for each other... people use to listen to their inner voice not judge( like recent times)  based on fruitless things. For Gods sake look at married couples now, 6 months-1 year n divorce.NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES HAVE THEY DATED. (psst.. coz when you are dating you are wearing a mask  not being yr true self  coz u gotta  please the opp person,ROFL).When the foundation itself is weak of a relationship,the building is going to fall one day,and it does.. rather then trust and love u put conditions,where you should hold hands,you leave it  thats why there is extra marital affairs,u again fall for same qualities that once attracted you in your current partner in someone else n there you go..n you will continue this behavior till you get frustrated when noone matches your list any more.This wont happen if your love is based on complete acceptance of each other,faith in each other,the passion to walk life together but no, Girls think I can earn +got (artificial) great looks I can get anyone. Guys think Im THE MAN earning more thn women I can get anyone , who cares for this one? ..and their life goes in this attitude and THE ONE never comes..Be "the ONE" first to attract "the ONE".. What are you giving it to the opposite person that you are asking for something in return? ask yourself this and thn think about a relationship or even before passing a judgement on anyone.It is indeed very wise to know your feelings before committing, dont get me wrong I do not propagate blind commitment. What I speak of it letting go of the fear to be in one.There is nothing to be afraid of. Hurt? Yes,everyone is going to hurt us. Dont we have our differences with our own parents,siblings,friends? We do not run away or isolate ourselves in a corner.we go ahead and sort it out.The same thing could be applied to this beautiful relationship also. Blocking yourself and making excuses to not commit isnt a way to solve anything.In the end either one will be lonely which they will realise at the age of say 70 or will be forced to get into some form of relationship by the society. Either the case,its Commitment phobic's loss.

Set your heart free, dont cage it with conditions,Be a believer of love,of goodness of BELIEF itself.Everyone had/has gone though bad experiences when it comes to relationship or even life,its a learning experience.One faces challenges even in life,so do we give up on life?no then why on love?just because u can choose to not be in?Its human basic nature to want love and feelings and by blocking the feelings we somewhere block our very own nature which in tern makes us no better to a stone.Dont be control freak and try to control everything and everyone.There is so much of "I" in a relationship where it should be "WE" , put less of  "I" and see things from "US" point of view,trust me you will have the most satisfying relationship ever.  Because this is what love is all about-- WE

Love n Light......n @ last NEVER EVER GIVE UP ON LOVE (no matter wht n how many times u have faced failure... God bless you with UNCONDITIONAL LOVE)

Me v/s World

There comes a time in every one's life where you really have to choose between yourself and someone else, some close to you, someone whom you really love. You are forced to choose between your happiness and that person's. What would you do in such a time? Our society teaches to be "sacrificing" to keep others happy and let go of your happiness.. But truly I believe the exact opposite. I feel how can you make others happy when you yourself are disconsolate ? Even if you can (taken for granted that you can) bring happiness to someone else , are you really being true to yourself? Don't you deserve to be happy? Aren't you as human as the one you love? Than why this discrimination?wouldn't you for a fraction of a second also feel "oh I wish things would have gone in my favour" ? I bet you would. Then isn't it better option to make yourself happy before you make others? Isn't it said by the wise that your outer world is reflection of your inner?So if one makes her/his Inner world ie THE SELF, joyous the same person's surrounding will also show the same. If you are content within, your vibrations will be so high that others also will feel joyous , content when you are around or might also take you as a mentor , as someone who brights up their days.

There are hell of myths created by the society, sacrificing, being selfless etc are to name a few. just to distinguish between desreving and non deserving. Enlightened are the people who knows no discrimination. Here mind you , I'm not saying that you should be negatively selfish. There is fine , very fine line between loving yourself and being cruel to others to suit yourself. The CREATOR has made us that way that we are always helpful to others around us. Try imagine life where no one has to help anyone else, would there be love? would there be life? it would be like a dead men walking, zombies. No, we are not created to be this, we are created to help each other, sometimes emotionally, physically , mentally or by just being there (just the presence). So coming back, being negatively selfish is taking away someone Else's rights (could be any rights,not just judicial) to make yourself happy for eg. plotting against an employee so that you may get next promotion.It is possible that the candidate would be more deserving than you. Having healthy self respect , loving yourself first and thus loving others is what Im talking about here.It is wonderous if you can give other people the smile they lost in the battle of life.BUT NOT at the cost of your own. ( I may sound someone promoting selfish word here, it isnt so.Its an observation coming from experience.)There isnt any need to boost someone elses ego at the cost of your self respect. By all means BE THERE FOR YOURSELF.Make yourself chipper and see the whole world chirping with you ;).

"NEVER COMPROMISE ON YOURSELF, YOU ARE ALL YOU HAVE GOT".Yes, it hurts, yes it feels "oh I'm being so nasty with someone I love"(you are not, you are saving someone from the trouble she/he would go through by seeing you in sadness).Things will be ugly in the beginning but time is the key word here.. It heals the deepest wounds, only if you allow it to.
"Pick yourself before you pick someone else" is the ingredient for happy life. But remember THE FINE LINE ;)

Love n Light..

still loving you

It was then tht i thought i knew u
led me to the disappointment today i feel.
it hurts to let you go,
it kills to be with you.
leaving you was never an option,
loving you is still a chance;
a way tht i wont take any more though i always did.
still long to b with you..
Im loving you still........................

Acceptance-harder implemented thn said.

From past few days something I ve been noticing the non-accepting aspect of people. If it is personal life, relationship or even if it is accepting ownself.

We are trying to be "perfect", but for what? for whom?why?what is the definition of PERFECT? It means one thing to 1 person other thing to other? Why do we have to struggle so that someone will accept us?sp the SOCIETY?Simple answer-EGO- .We want everyone to boost our ego.. we all want to feel SUPERIOR to the other..(such a silly thought it is)and to feed itself,ego makes us stoop to lowest level.we are always taught,we are always compared right from the childhood till we die. Has anyone ever noticed that in the process of "fitting into the society", one becomes so non accepting to his own self?Criticizing your self, disrespecting..gosh! so many words.. Its pity to see people not accepting the way they are..Most of the times we are forced to do things which we dont like?coz we want everyone to accept us,Whts d need for you to be accepted by others?They are never going to be satisfied with the change you make for them,you bet they will hardly even notice it .. Live with the belief that all are equal and you will never have any need to please anyone. Just a question-HAVE WE EVER ACCEPTED OURSELF? Have we ever loved our ownself tht we want others to love us? NO.. thts d answer I swear you will get. . Accept yourself the way you are.. Love yourself as you would love anyone else.

Everyone wants everyone to change,their partners, parents, friends..everyone, why cant people just accpet each other the way they are, most of the disappointments/relationship break ups that happens is due to neglecting the others freedom and imposing your own ideologies on them. Just imagine when you love someone for who they are and you love yourself the way you are,how much less pain you will cause yrself and the other person//Just love them for who they are even if you have thousands of differences,doesnt matter.Acceptance is very strong emotion.like love,it can over come anything.

Start with yourself:Get up every morning look into the mirror and say " no matter who says what to me/about me , I accept myself , I love myself" and thn see d difference..Once you start accepting yourself others will also act in different manner wid you.. As all is linked..