We are human, social beings. We are surrounded by people throughout our lives,some are friends, some go beyond that and some….. leaves or should be thrown out. Friendship or any relationship that toxifies your life. Needs to go. Harsh it sounds but one would rather have few genuine friends then having million fake friends or “frenemies” the term Sounds familiar eh? Yes we all have such creatures in our life once a while. This word is the collaboration of the word, friend and enemy.

Frenemies are generally the “friends” who come in your life with a very sweet talk and by showing the best in them for their own selfish motto.  We accept them for what they show us,not realizing the dagger they carry behind their back.Not judging our self; we could be too naive or may be completely unaware of their intentions. 

So what do we do? How do we know that we have Frenemies? 

I can say its better to be very cautious with all the relationship in life. Be very alert.Test people,Its completely fair to do so. People who are toxic will show the hint in some form or the other you just have to aware and alert enough to recognize them.As and when you do, dont procrastinate but take the action there and than.Still for instance frenemies will always comes to u when they are in need, it could be financial,emotional,physical anything they dont really bother what is in your life but will jabber about theirs as if u have all the free time in the world to listen to their nonsense.Emotionally they will exploit you by pointing out your faults and calling it “your benefit”. Your emotions are weakness and exaggeration for them thus they will completely disregard them. Truth said,no body  is perfect and friendship out of all the relationship should be based on sole acceptance of each other.You begin to lose strength and positivity of your own and start becoming like them. They tend to prosper after you coming in their life where as your life goes down the drain. Nothing in your life goes right till they are there, and you sit back and watch their life soaring .This happens because they are sucking life,prana out of you which in tern becomes their prosperity,leaving you soul less.. We all make mistakes, thats what keeps us beautifully human but when our faults are magnified, and shown to other friends with the intent of disrupting friendship between two friends is the wonderful and clever work of frienemies. A genuine friend will never quote anyone and wont click your personal conversation and show it to the world with the intent of ruining your friendship.Yes and those who believe such people, are also weak human themselves.The real friends rather call you up and talk it out and clear the issue,for them you are more valuable than the rumors spread about you.

They say, friends are the relatives you choose. Are frenemies worth this? I dont think so. In the end who loses? The one with sincere heart. Why get into this then? Why make your loss, their gain? Such people, without a second thought should be UNFRIENDed from LIFE, forget social networking. There is really no point in dragging such friendship that is based on lies, deceit,humiliation. One should love themselves enough to set the boundaries and not let such people cross it.If they do ,do yourself that much of favor to kick them out.Friendship if was long and old will hurt like hell, it will , you may go through anger, hurt, sadness every emotion on earth.Though toxic , you will miss the birthdays, the meetings, the fun, drives in the rain everything. It is completely fine to go through all this, this too will teach you a lot. They just make the whole drama for you so real that you will just get entangled in those memories,till you break free and realize that never sacrifice long term happiness for short term gain.Once you begin to heal you shall see the fictitious nature of such friendship. At a point its better to not have friends then having bunch of these. They really do no good to you.

On the brighter side, we all are blessed with at least one friend who is a real sweetheart. Who actually stand by you, treat you fair and love you for being YOU. Be grateful. They are the ones who have scored A+ in the tests of fire. Such are the ones who should be worth calling a friend in the first place. Focus on them. You will attract positive things and more positive friends once you let go of the wrong ones but dont forget to Thank the darkness because they are the ones that give you the value of the Light. 

Spirituality- et all

Knowing Half truth is more dangerous than knowing the full, they say. These days, this truth is said, known and twisted to the maximum. To call oneself spiritual has become a symbol tht says "Im different", most of them not even being aware of what the word spirituality means. One wants to be different, so call oneself without the depth of the subject.

To know what u are, first you have to know what ur not. Same goes with this word. Spirituality is not an absence of religious belief and worship, its about oneness , the ultimate truth.Spirituality is  not what u Say. Its all about what you ARE.We are the soul having human experience and not other way round. Its about living with the LIGHT, acting in a righteous manner,being AWARE- of your actions,words,intention. 

A spiritual being is NOT some avataar from some far away galaxy, they are not perfect themselves, they are also HUMAN- that level of perfection can only be expected from God. We still go through the same ups and downs that everyone else does, we are same flesh and blood as any other being. I often get comments from the people as "oh how can u do this?how can u get angry?how can u feel depressed? you are spiritual being" Yea as if we are demi Gods incarnated itself (unless we are and we arent aware of it.lol) Stop putting YOUR boundries and pressure on us in the name of spirituality. We never claim to be different. Through out the history and mythology, every God that incarnated had only one message,they ARE NO DIFFERENT THAN REST OF US. Kingdom of GOD resides in all of us the same. ITs only matter that they realise it, believe it and LIVE IT. and others look for someone else to give their power to rather than believing their inner light.

Spirituality is not even doing thousand courses and spending huge amount on them. It is just filling peoples pocket and getting a certificate that says you are this and this.When it is just the matter of realization that you are everything that u seek. Of course energy exchange has to be there but not that much that the learner in the end is struggling to pass his rest of the months. and for the love of God, spirituality is not dealing with demons and conspiracing against the earth. Its not also to visit every temple and sit high up on the peak of the mountain waiting for some divine being to give u your wish (brrrrr, it could be damn cold out there, unless ur up for such an adventure)Anyways Deities have better and important work to do then granting people their wishes which may involve destruction on Earth ;p

Every fiber of every universe is as equally spiritual as rest of us who knows we are.God has not made anyone less or more. What people have become is through their own hard work and effort to be like God or be far away from him. His love is so pure that his children who chose the other path is also not judged,condemned or isolated. They are given the same help , love and acceptance as any of us to change, to be better, to be like him. If wasnt for his love the universe would collapse into a small dot.-----------

Its only matter of realization

Coming back to the word- Spirituality is so simple that few words are enough to define it (and few paragraph to define what its not).

• Unconditional love towards everyone and everything.
• Surrender and trust to the divine and his plan.He takes care of the tiniest detail of your life( what was your contribution of becoming whole being from a tiny cell,NOTHING,its HIM who intervened)
• Manifesting humility (ego gets u practically no where)
• Meditating -which is our way "to keep in touch" with God and Divine beings and our only tool to survive in this insanity.
• Oneness - we believe that everything and every being has the same God energy which includes a single sand on the beach too.Whatever we do has the ripple effect throughout the universe.

What do people need to do in order to be spiritual?was once asked, its simple, LIVE the above qualities and know that UR ONE with the LIGHT of GOD,nothing else is to be done. I hope this must have cleared some cloud hovering. Thus, do not judge, live n let live with happiness,peace and LIGHT. 

A year

A year passed by, in blink of an eye.
A year like eternity,
an eon wrapped in  a year,
since you left, without a word; to the soul
It wandered and fell and 't last,awakened, to the fact,
the labels o'good and bad were just knockers,
But love never budged.

Time went by without a word,
that not matters,now,as silence is love,
Still awaiting,your return